bpd diagnosis

[nataya]

I have been diagnosed with bpd since 2009. But never believed I fit the criteria. That was until today when I found this site and read the homepage.

I don't know how I feel about it yet but I guess this may open a few doors for me.

I am just about to start a DBT group that goes for a whole year had both group and individual appointments. Plus they encourage phone calls during the week when you are distressed. I will find that very hard the phone calls because I feel like I am given the time with my therapist and case manager and that it any other time I am just harassing them.

So I guess this could mean a whole new Page ahead even more so now I actually accept my diagnosis.....I'm scared.......

[rose]

Hi Nataya and welcome to the message board.

I really hope you embrace DBT as it's a well recognised treatment for the disorder. It may not be easy to begin with, but like all things new, it will take awhile before you settle in to it.

As for the phone calls, I haven't done DBT (not available except at great cost where I live) but believe the calls are only suppose to be of short duration, less than 5 minutes and are only so you can nut out a problem you're having.

Hope all goes well for you.
Kind regards,
Rose.

[Admin]

Hi Nataya, Congrats on starting DBT, embrace it and learn from it as it will really assist you. Don't worry about the phone call, it is part of their program and they expect them.

Welcome to site
~mjtacc~

[walnuts]

Hi Nataya,
I have been avoiding DBT group therapy for a few years now. I have finally bitten the bullet and am 4 weeks into the therapy, I have found it a little daunting talking in the group but I am also seeing the benefits already. I wish I had just got off my sabotaging butt and did the dbt way back before I did a lot af really stupid stuff
Jodie

[nataya]

Wow thank you all so much for your time and response. I really appreciate it.

I go to see my dbt therapist tomorrow and am hoping to find out when the group start. The group will be quiet small only 6 or so people. So I will find it very hard because I don't do well around other I always feel like I don't belong.

I've been in therapy for 12 years and with local mental health for 2 years now. This is my last chance I am over therapy so this is my last chance to try after this if it doesn't work I will give up. But I am going in with a very open mind and have heard lots of good things about it. I am just so tied of it all.

Plus I still need to come to terms with my diagnosis, I need to fully accept it and I don't know how to go about it because it means I need to accept thins about myself that I don't really want to accept. So there is so much yet to do but. So so so tied.

[Admin]

Nataya,
Most important part of your last post is the last paragraph. You have been in therapy for 12 years and you are saying to yourself "if this doesn't work then you will give up - but - you haven't accepted why you are in therapy or what you will actually be giving up on.

As for DBT, the session you attend are a very small of the process. The key to making DBT work is to put it in to practice. I have dealt with many, many people who openly say DBT doesn't work but they were the people who thought that attending a few sessions would fix everything.

~mjtacc~

[nataya]

I'm not expecting huge changes I'm expecting more slow gradual changes with DBT. Nor am I expecting it to be easy, I am aware that I am the one who has to make the effort. So I know it will be hard and not easy. I found out today group session start on the 11th of june.

It doesn't matter what I'll be giving up on if this doesn't work because it will be everything no matter what but I more mean will give up on therapy. I have learnt many things in my years and have some big improvements with help, but this is the last bit I have to give. It has been so much giving with no much reward. I will discharge myself from all the services I am engaged in now.

I'm also scared of the changes DBT will bring but I am hopeful.....

[Admin]

Thank you Nataya and I hope the changes are slow, are very helpful and not to scarey

~mjtacc~